Friday, April 15, 2016

Part 2: How to Develop A Routine - And How It Helps Combat ADD

I hate Mondays.
Who doesn't though to be honest? When you work a typical 8-5 office job Monday is the worst day of the week.

(Well, except maybe Tuesday, which is the day that everyone remembers the stuff they were supposed to do on Monday and hands it over to you.)

The last thing I want to do on a Monday night is do anything that requires brain power.

I come home from work, leave the door open for Ezra to go out side, and as soon as he finishes his business we both crash on the couch for a good 3 hour cuddle session while I browse the internet and generally just decompress. 

I don't see anything wrong with that.

Until Tuesday, and then Wednesday, and suddenly - it feels like I've wasted half of the week and haven't done much besides watch YouTube videos and eat cheese crackers.

Now, maybe spending nights like that wouldn't be a real issue for someone who doesn't have social engagements and a boyfriend. The issue comes up when I suddenly feel like I haven't spent any time actually doing things for myself. It comes to a point where I hoarding time seems like a really good idea. I cancel plans with my friends, let Matt know I'm running late - anything to get just a few more minutes to myself.

Only those minutes are wasted by the anxiety I feel about the upcoming engagement. I end up saying to myself :

"Okay Self - We're only going to look at one more post on Reddit, then we have to get dressed. Okay, two more and I won't wear eye liner. Well, maybe three if I put my hair in a ponytail...."

And it stresses me out!

So I developed a routine for the evenings that I don't have anything already scheduled.

I try to have at least two to three of these evenings a week to create space for myself.

5:30p - Arrive home from work
Immediately - Let Ezra out. While he's doing his thing, take a moment to focus being mindful. No tablet, no book. Just watching the lil dude do his business.
5:40 - Make dinner.
6:00 - Eat dinner while surfing the interwebs.
6:30 - Write, brainstorm or start a new project - Do chores if nothing else!
8:30 - Shower
9:00 - Do AB Skincare Night Routine
9:30 - Update Bullet Journal, put in the next day's heading and trackers (usually while wearing a sheet mask)
10:00 - Get in bed, check out a YouTube video or catch up on Facebook
10:30 - Get self to sleep!

And that's really it. 

Just a basic idea of what I should be doing at any given time during the evening so that I don't feel like I haven't done anything for myself. Of course, as with any routine it's not set in stone, and is just meant to be a guideline for productivity. If I have a really bad day at work and can't seem to focus on doing productive things, I just don't.

During the weekend I give myself free reign to wake up whenever and do whatever comes my way. A large portion of the time Friday through Sunday is spent with Matt, or with my friends. I let them dictate what we do and reserve time for running errands when I'm not with someone. Letting someone else control the weekend time is a form of mindfulness for me; I'm actively relinquishing control and going with the flow.

Let me know in the comments if you have a routine that you follow that helps. How do you incorporate slowing down and mindfulness into your day?

1 comment:

  1. I don't hate Mondays! I'm working home. on Monday my Family (the biggest distractors) leave me alone at least :D I can hear my thoughts...


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